I want to tell you a terrific story about oral contraception. I asked this girl to sleep with me and she said ‘no’.
Woody Allen
Yes, rejection is rough. It is disappointing, and it hurts. Our self-esteem and psyche often takes a beating but with each rejection comes experience, learning, increasing confidence and the realization that rejection needs only be painful if you make it so.
Rejection does not lessen your value as a human being. In our search for a mate, rejection is part of the process of weeding out those who are available, compatible and those who deserve our time and attention. Rejection is never about your self-worth. Your self-worth is determined by you.
Those who reject another based solely on physical appearances are those not worthy of your time and energy as they are likely to be the least successful as people and in finding genuine love. Yes, we are often smittened by looks but it is through our ears that we discover love. It is only by listening, evaluating and incorporating what we hear that we find the true nature of another. It is then that we begin to love and give of ourselves.
