Behavioural Choices

In the course of a day, I interact with many women. Most are pleasant and approachable. However, there are equally as many women who are unpleasant and unapproachable. In the choices they make, they sabotage their social success by their lack of self-awareness of how they are perceived.

In the course of a day, I see supervisors who lack compassion, are humourless and fail show any warmth for their fellow human beings; I see shoppers who show nothing but contempt for retail clerks who must put up with snarky remarks and mouthy behaviour; I see cashiers who do not acknowledge their customers or bother to hand back change choosing instead to put coins on the counter without so much as a “thank you”; I see co-workers whose hypocrisy is matched by their eagerness to put down the people they work with; I see managers with a vocabulary comparable to a sailor’s and who go out of their way to embarrass others in public settings because it gives them a sense of superiority; I see too much arrogance, passive-aggressiveness and hatefulness.

We all make choices about how we feel and how we relate to people and the world around us. When you choose uncaring, negative or hurtful behaviour, you alienate and destroy any chance of genuine interaction with others.

Is it any wonder that many of us are alone?