Finding Self-Acceptance

In the 1966 John Frankenheimer film Seconds, an aging banker played by John Randolph turns to a secret organization for radical plastic surgery and a chance at a new life. Or so, he believes. "Reborn” as an artist (now portrayed by Rock Hudson), he discovers that his new life does not bring the happiness he was so desperately seeking. Thus, the moral of the story--an external make-over does not produce happiness for the individual who cannot fundamentally accept him- or herself.

Self-acceptance is key to individual happiness and consequently the foundation for building meaningful relationships. If you are someone who has low self-esteem and believes that some one or some thing will provide you with validation or happiness, you are mistaken.

Statements such as: I am nothing if I’m not in a relationship or I am not beautiful are unhealthy and unproductive and prevents you from achieving true happiness. Dispensing with such beliefs is where you must begin in order to get on the road to self-acceptance.

How to begin?

Start with a commitment to taking care of yourself emotionally and physically. Nurture your self. Many of us are good at telling others to take care of themselves but do not do the same for ourselves. Exercise. Eat a balanced diet. Get involved in activities and things that are emotionally rewarding and meaningful. Explore and foster your passion(s). Don’t isolate yourself and seek out others with similar values and interests. Share your skills and experiences (as a volunteer). Establish and maintain quality relationships. Avoid people with negative energies as they sap yours. Stop the negative self thoughts and unhealthy behaviours. Respect yourself and others. Become more effective as a communicator. Learn and grow. Confidence comes with learning new things and exploring new experiences that you would normally avoid. Don’t let your work be the sole reason for your existence. Find balance in life.

Lastly, learn to have fun and laugh every now and then.

(Seconds is available on DVD--ed)