Cyrano on Finding and Mentoring Love

Get Rid of That Ugly Demeanor

No amount of make-up or the latest styles from fashion designers will cover an ugly demeanor or personality. The woman who is ill-mannered, rude, crude and lacking in common courtesy is not attractive in any sense of the word. A woman lacking refinement tends to attract the jerks, creeps, the social and emotional retarded/rejects.

Beauty is much more than the external. Beauty is about personality, attitude(s), confidence (in who you are, in how you communicate), values and outlook--things that are part of the inner you. The woman who projects warmth, listens actively, and makes the other person feel that he is the most important person at that moment is much more memorable than the expensively (and pretentiously) attired and overly done up wannabe.

Politeness, courtesy and respect matters. So is sincerity. These qualities reflect you to the world--whether it pertains to attracting a mate, in the career arena or whatever you pursue. People with these qualities are remembered and treasured. Assess and evaluate yourself.

Do you project warmth and confidence?

Do you make eye contact? (not in the flirtatious sense)

Do you listen actively (meaning do you hear and understand what the other person is saying as opposed to your mind wandering?)

When you speak, are you assertive or aggressive?

Do you smile? (or is there a snarl across your face?)

Do you make an effort to recognize and appreciate those you come into contact with? (or do you make immediate assumptions based on appearances?)

Are you respectful of those who may have differing viewpoints?

Do you make an effort to resolve communication difficulties? (or do you ignore them and hope that they go away or let someone else deal with them?)

Do you make every moment matter?

Do you give your best effort regardless of the task or activity?

Do you have a positive outlook and project positive energy?